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Well the birthday came and went the celebrations lasted for a good week, you have to love that and with the rolling of the calendar days came the “completion” of my 40 after 40 quest. I have updated both “The List” and the “Photo” page with the results. I have to say I am pretty proud of what I accomplished regarding my life’s “to-do” list. I had fun, saw some beautiful sights and made some great memories. I also saw the power of humanity in the willingness of friends and strangers to help you realize your dreams. I think the lesson there was perhaps not in ignoring people who tell you can’t do something but listening to and surrounding yourself with the people who tell you, you CAN and even offer help.

We spend most of our life listening to the wrong people. The people who tell you your dreams are dumb, unattainable, ridiculous, a waste of time, etc. When you hear that time and time again you start to believe THAT instead of what you know in your heart to be true. Most of the time those people were wrong and spoke out of jealousy, fear, and ignorance. To follow your heart is to be brave and to put yourself out on a limb. If you have ever studied a tree branch it is thickest closet to the trunk and the other branches. The further it gets from the trunk it not only gets thinner but starts to curve and twist in its own unique way. There is comfort in the protection of the familiar no matter how constricting it is. But does comfort equal happiness????? The thin part of the branch is the scariest BUT it is also where you get a clearer unobstructed view of what is really out there. It is worth the trip to let go of the trunk and shimmy your way out to the edge of the limb. Your belief and faith in yourself will sustain you. It’s when you look back at the trunk and the naysaying branches behind you that begin to become heavy and your limb starts to crack.

Ignore those that would limit you and your beliefs and surround yourself instead with the beautiful leaves perched at the end in view of your dreams. Know that first you CAN do this alone if you wish, this gives you the luxury of being choosy with whom you share your dreams with or who you ask for help from. If you believe you can do it alone you won’t feel pressured to fall back into the (Un)comfortable zone of those who say, “See, I told you it wouldn’t work.” Leave your fears and negative followers behind you, let them cling to the middle of the tree and watch you climb to the end for the best view. You owe it to yourself. If you’re scared, start small everything is accomplished ONE step at a time.

I still have some people in my life that are filled with jealousy and judgement but they are in the minority now. There are some people that for whatever reason will always be in your life and in these situations, since they aren’t changing or going away, you need to learn to make their voice a whisper in your head instead of a shout. As I have said before this is YOUR life YOU are the one living it and shouldn’t it be on your terms?

I have a few items on my list still and I WILL see them through mainly because I WANT to or they wouldn’t be on the list. I set a goal to cram four decades of missed experiences and opportunities into a year and I got about 85% done. I am pleased with the results and the desire and the list didn’t disintegrate on my birthday. I now have a partial road map of what I’d like to accomplish in the next year or two and rest assured I will be adding more things along the way so I don’t have to make a 50 after 50 list! Eventually I would like a list of 2 or 3 things. Not for lack of desire BUT, because I actually kept doing things, setting goals, and having experiences so that they don’t build up into a laundry list of “somedays.” My quest taught me to do it now or make a plan to do it as soon as possible after all no one here gets out alive, so use the good dishes and the guest towels. Enjoy your life and your things and be flexible and fearless you’ll be glad you did!

Stay tuned for my next blog project. My most immediate adventure will be immersing myself once again in November’s NaNoWriMo. This “National Novel Writing Month” where the goal is to write a 50,000 word novel in 30 days. I have participated previously and last year (It was on the list) the final editing for my contracted manuscript came due during November so that took priority but this year the ideas are swimming and I am eager to plunge into the 30-day deadline starting November 1st and see what I can create!

Thanks for following along on my journeys and I hope through my honesty and humor I have inspired you to take a look at the trials and errors of “living the life you have imagined” and touched a spark in your heart.

Stay tuned! 🙂

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“Story Times Good Enough to Eat! : Thematic programs with edible story crafts” by Melissa Rossetti Folini – Libraries Unlimited/ABC-CLIO – Jan. 2010 – 3 5-star reviews on Amazon.com, also available from Barnes and Noble  or from the author.  

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So my quest for the 40 after 40 will come to a close in ten days. I am very proud of all that I have accomplished over the past year and a bit annoyed as well that I needed to make a list in my 4th decade to actually accomplish some very simple things. I have heard from readers that my list inspired them to make list of their own of all different lengths and goals and that is a very happy bonus! Losing a family member unexpectedly this summer just drove home the whole point behind the list. We only get the one time around and we should try to be as happy and fulfilled as we possibly can. Again, my list is/was filled with things I actually wanted to do and some I needed to do in order to make other goals happen and my only regret in the process is I waited so long. It was quite a challenge to fit 40 years of “wants” into a year and they won’t all get done by THIS birthday, but I plan on having many more so I will keep going. Just because the calendar announces the end of this quest is by no means an announcement that I will stop having fun, accomplishing goals, and fulfilling dreams. Some people work best on a deadline or under pressure. I am confident that everything on my list will come true mainly because I wish it too and I am going to keep working on it! I am very close to completing a few more items on the list and I will give the final total after next week. 

For now I urge you to set a deadline, make a list even if it’s only comprised of one or two things. Give yourself until your birthday or Christmas and do something for you that you have always wanted too. Enlist the help of others, step outside your comfort zone, when you have help and determination it’s not such a scary place after all and the rewards are well worth it! Make THIS the year you stop saying “someday” and start “living the life you have imagined!” 

Here’s a tip that works for me that may help you. When I am in need of a shot in the arm of inspiration I watch movies that make me say “I can do this!” It IS possible if you want it bad enough and work hard enough. One of them is “Rudy” he was an underdog if ever there was one. EVERYONE told him “no” from his teachers, to coaches, to his own family. He gave up everything and ended up having to spend a year at Holy Cross instead of his goal of Notre Dame. BUT he got a good education while never losing sight of his ultimate goal. He felt frustration and kept plugging away despite ALL odds. “Rudy,” Daniel Reuttiger is now a very successful motivational speaker and why not he has a great story to tell. That’s just one example but it’s a good one. One of my favorite quotes from Eleanor Roosevelt is, “You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.” If you think you can and make a plan and don’t stop until you get it, it is the most empowering feeling in the World! here’s the kicker, once you get that done you realize that they are a few other things you thought were out of reach that begin to look attainable. Once you finish your “impossible” dream that dream becomes the first domino in a long line and they all just fall into place and give you the momentum need to move forward into the happy life you daydreamed about and deserve. 

Take the first step by simply making a list. get them out of your head and onto a piece of paper, that’s it for now. Just giving them life by writing them down will make them seem more real and not so daunting. There’s no time like the present. You will be glad you did! 

Stay tuned for the final dash to finish the “List!” As well as my next “project!!” 

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Put my creativity to work for you! Visit my services page and let me help you design a vision board, goal prop, or a custom poem for a special occasion! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 

“Story Times Good Enough to Eat! : Thematic programs with edible story crafts” by Melissa Rossetti Folini – Libraries Unlimited/ABC-CLIO – Jan. 2010 – 3 5-star reviews on Amazon.com, also available from Barnes and Noble  or from the author.  

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