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New England is famous for its ever-changing weather. The old saying goes, “if you don’t like the weather, just wait a minute.” This December we made it to a White Christmas by the skin of our teeth with a scant inch of snow on the ground which was gone within days. However, since then we’ve had a major snowstorm, followed by a blizzard, followed by another 8 inches, some nice sleet on top, 18 hours reprieve followed by another several very fluffy inches. When I woke up this morning the view out our large picture window was breath-taking, every tree branch had a coating and not a single bird or animal had made any tracks on the ground in the orchard area. It was pristine and undisturbed. It was a beautiful sight and it proved to be an inspirational one as well as I penned a poem shortly after I took a few photographs.

The irony of the gorgeous view I had out my back window is, when I turned to face the window that overlooked the main street that we live on, I saw a very different scene. The road was covered in that greasy, brown slush that cars love to spin and fish-tail in. Our stairs were covered in knee-length drifts, and our carefully shoveled path of the night before was gone again. The view out back showed undisturbed peace and calm and a relaxing vision. The view out front caused anxiety, frustration, and worry over dangerous road conditions, back-jarring shoveling, and icy walkways. It’s amazing how this one event from Mother Nature could cause such polar opposite reactions.

In reality, Mother Nature just does what she does best, she dropped some snow as  she always does. The juxtaposition of the reactions to it are all mine. This leads me to the discovery I wanted to share today, that life gives us a lot of situations and it gives those situations to everyone, the difference is in how you REACT to them. There is a choice here. You can choose to see the beauty of the snow or fixate on the difficulties in its removal. The point here is, if I never turned around I would have just kept enjoying the view and the sense of peace it brought.

So my advice to you is this: If you don’t like your view (your situation, your job, your life) simply adjust your view. If you look at problems or situations from a different angle you may have a different perspective and a different reaction. Again, it’s a choice and it’s a simple one. You can capture the serenity of the snow in a poem or curse the wet and cold intrusion, the choice is yours and I can tell you one is going to make you have a really bad day, and who needs that.

For me, I focused on the beauty and captured it with images and words and I have enjoyed the view from here all day long.

                  

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Put my creativity to work for you! Visit my services page and let me help you design a vision board, goal prop, or a custom poem for a special occasion! 

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“Story Times Good Enough to Eat! : Thematic programs with edible story crafts” by Melissa Rossetti Folini – Libraries Unlimited/ABC-CLIO – Jan. 2010 – 3 5-star reviews on Amazon.com, also available from Barnes and Noble  or from the author.  

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If you look at the word “resolutions” you will see all the ingredients necessary for “results”! Pretty neat huh? They’ve been there all along you maybe just didn’t see it. With the dawning of 2011 people around the World make wishes, goals, & resolutions as what better time then the start of a new year? Some people genuinely make these resolutions as they are looking for change and need a meaningful start date. Some people make drunken plans they won’t remember in 24 hours. Many people scoff at those who would use a calendar change to bring about a life change and that’s probably why in 2012 they will be exactly where they were in 2009, 2010, & 2011 – “if nothing changes, nothing changes.”

I think the reason resolutions have gotten a bad reputation is the fact that :

1. Most people are afraid of change and committment so they refuse to step out of their comfort zone and make one at all.

2. People make the wish without making a plan to make it so.

It is not the resolution that failed it was the person that made it! Period.

This has a simple solution though. That is……

Write the dang thing down!

If you keep it as a secret wish in your head and never formulate a plan or outline any steps it remains as a wish and will be gone by February and replaced with self-loathing and disgust at your lack of “will-power.” It’s not your lack of willpower it’s your lack of planning.

Give your dream/resolution life. Make it count by writing it down then, there it is, your intention is on paper and out into the World. Now that you’ve  launched it, give it direction. Write right underneath as many steps that come into your head on how to make it happen. Then start putting symbols or checks next to those you can do right away. Don’t forget to give yourself an end date –  something to shoot for, it need not be concrete but it will help you measure your progress and keep your confidence and focus. Starting on New Year’s day is only part of the battle.

Also, mark those items that may be perceived as challenges or obstacles or hinge on something or someone else before you can complete the step. Separate those out on another piece of paper and list WHY you “think” it’s an issue,  then brainstorm how you will get around it. Give yourself short-term goals and if you need to, short-term rewards as well.

This is about you, it is what you want and you can make it happen. You wouldn’t buy a car without doing research, defining a budget, etc. Goals are the same way decide which make and model you want then outline what you need to do to get it and most importantly ….Begin.

Don’t let your resolutions become a cliché, make them a reality. All you need is your wish and a pen and a piece of paper to begin. Fear is not welcome here.

As usual I have made a few resolutions/goals myself. I make them constantly but I admit to saving the big ones for birthdays and New Years. They’re very powerful days and bigger goals need all th extra oomph I can muster. I let them swim in my head for a while until I get a clear picture or vision then I can write down exactly what it is I’m hoping to accomplish then I set out figuring out how to get there. I have also helped several others with this technique as well. Voicing or writing down your intentions is a VERY important step, if you won’t take the time to do that then I can tell you, you won’t invest the time to make it come true either. It really is that simple and the control is all yours, don’t fool yourself with that one. Life is about choices, YOUR choices, you either make them or your don’t. This year why not try making the ones YOU want and then making your dream a reality. Life throws us enough obstacles without letting ourselves get in the way. Keep your vision clear and when things get hectic and sketchy call on that picture in your mind, read your goal list, and regain your focus.

2010 was a mixed year for me, I saw the publication of my book, and several poems, I grew my speaking business and help out my husband on the way to attaining some of his goals. However, we lost a family member suddenly and while it drives home the point of life being to short it also leaves you with trying to help those left behind get on with daily life and create a new “normal,” There is also a year of 1sts to go through without that person. I have been through it a number of times and you don’t get over it BUT you do get through it. There are times when others needs are more important than yours and as long as you hold on to your focus you can move forward and do the right thing by your family as well.

In November we also lost our entertaining, flatulent, ravenous, four-legged companion Max. Those of you familiar with the blog are very aware of his antics and penchant for eating EVERYTHING. But, when the hungriest dog in the World won’t eat you know he’s sick. I miss my buddy everyday as since I work from home he was a constant presence (& pain) and also muse. So we have had some loss but had some good also and we are all moving forward into this brand new year with hope, optimism, and determination and we will come out on the other side better than when we started..know that!

Happy 2011! Good luck with your resolutions and if ou need help getting “results,” Contact me for help. There is a list of what I can do for you under the “services” page.

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Put my creativity to work for you! Visit my services page and let me help you design a vision board, goal prop, or a custom poem for a special occasion! 

I am also available to speak for your group, club, or function.

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“Story Times Good Enough to Eat! : Thematic programs with edible story crafts” by Melissa Rossetti Folini – Libraries Unlimited/ABC-CLIO – Jan. 2010 – 3 5-star reviews on Amazon.com, also available from Barnes and Noble  or from the author.  

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